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Dealing with bias in online dating

Dealing with bias in online dating
In shortYou never owe anyone a reply. Block and report anyone who sends racist or abusive messages, and a person here will review it. If a message threatens or harasses you because of your race, you can report it to the police.

Key facts

On this siteBlock and report, reviewed by a person
UKReport hate crime to the police through True Vision
USLocal police, then the FBI at tips.fbi.gov
Emergency999 in the UK, 911 in the US

Most people you meet online will be kind. But if someone crosses a line, you don't have to put up with it. Here's what you can do.

Report hate crime in the UK

Threats or harassment motivated by race or religion are treated as hate crimes. True Vision, the police hate crime site, explains how to report online material to the police. You can also use the report button on any site or app.

Source: True Vision (National Police Chiefs' Council): Reporting internet hate crime, checked 8 November 2026

Report hate crime in the US

In an emergency, dial 911. Otherwise, report it to your state or local police first, then to the FBI at tips.fbi.gov or on 1-800-225-5324. VictimConnect, on 1-855-484-2846, can point you to local support.

Source: US Department of Justice: Report a hate crime, checked 8 November 2026

Get help reporting harmful content

Report Harmful Content, part of the UK Safer Internet Centre, links to the reporting tools of many sites and apps and explains their rules. It's open to anyone. If someone is in immediate danger, call 999.

Source: Report Harmful Content (UK Safer Internet Centre), checked 8 November 2026

Questions

Should I reply to a racist message?

No. Block and report them. You don't owe anyone a response.

Will the site act on my report?

Every report is reviewed by a person.

Should I keep evidence?

It's a good idea to take screenshots before you block someone, in case you report it to the police.